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birth control vs. faith

October 15, 2007

I’m writing today, not really knowing exactly where this post is going to go.  I’m sure that a lot of you think this is a completely ridiculous discussion, but it has been nagging in my mind since I was first married. So, I’d be really interested in hearing some opinions on the issue.

My first question is this: If I truly trust God to do what He wants with my life, why would I need to use birth control? Shouldn’t I trust that God knows how many kids I should have? Do I have a right to squelch the possiblity of a life that God may have intended to exist?

Of course, I could also say, if I trust God with my life, why wear a seatbelt when I drive? You could argue that God gives us intelligient minds so that we can make responsible, informed choices. Would it be responsible for me to have a bushel of babies if I don’t have the physical, emotional, or financial resources to take care of them? But on the other hand… if God creates a child, won’t He also create a way for me to take care of him?

My other big debate is centered around all those potential children. Now I know very well that if God really wants a baby to be born, He’ll make it happen despite all of my birth control efforts. So, ultimately God has veto power over any decision that conflicts with His plan. But, there is a serious discrepancy between the number of babies I would have if I let nature take its course vs. the number that would occur via spontaneous act of God. So what about those other children? Are they a part of God’s plan, or not?

I guess to answer that one I’d have to delve into the matter of God’s omniscience. He already knows what decisions I will make regarding the size of our family, so why would He plan for a child that would never exist? Hmmm… I think I’ll add that to the list of questions to ask when we get there.

Oh, and to my husband, if you’re reading this…don’t panic. 🙂

5 Comments leave one →
  1. kermooch permalink
    October 16, 2007 1:24 pm

    Sitting here, seven months pregnant with our sixth, very uncomfortable and very tired, I find it easy to say that I am all right with making that decision myself.

    However, on my better days, and when I’m not pregnant, I find that more difficult to do. I thought we were done after kids 2,3,4 & definitely 5. But God has surprised us with these blessings and I can’t imagine life without them.

    As we are on the verge of making a permanent decision, I find myself inexplicably unsure if I am limiting His generosity. My husband is not as confused :-), but I do think he has been more surprised than I have at the course our life has taken. If we had known then…

    So, I have no answers, only the same questions, and a great anticipation to find the answers when we get there.

  2. Kim permalink
    October 17, 2007 8:39 am

    As believers I think this area is a very difficult one. We tend to want God’s blessing in every other area of our lives except this one.
    We also spend much time in prayer over which job to take, which car to buy, etc… I have found few that will say they really prayed about how many children God wanted them to have. Most of the time they will just decide on their own that they will have two children just like everyone else.
    Perhaps God would just like to be asked. 🙂

  3. October 21, 2007 3:28 pm

    I am not able to be on “the pill” and have often wondered and stressed about these same questions you are asking… but for the opposite reason because we are not ready to have children. God has brought one truth to mind… He says in Genesis that He breathes life into man. So is it not still true that He still breathes life into little babies when they are conceived. Only He can do that. Only He can choose to give a body a soul. We can do all the right things but only He can bring life! I guess we just have to trust his choice and power.

  4. Darrel permalink
    October 21, 2007 5:56 pm

    Ultimately it is God’s decision either way. God gives you the desires of your heart…..meaning if he wants you to desire another child you will!!! Does that mean he wants you to have another child? Not necessarily, he wants you to do the best you can with the life he has given you, which includes making decisions about the future of your family. In making tough decisions you learn the lesson’s He has been trying to teach you. For the record birth control is not gonna get in God’s way if he really wants you to have a child.

  5. April 26, 2008 11:17 am

    Great blog…I just now found this on accident. I have struggled with this issue as well. I think Kim’s response was great just in the fact that we should ask God. I have some friends who have struggled with the opposite problem – infertility – and they are very quick to go to their knees about it, yet in other scenarios, often times we’re not. Keep the ponderings going…I love the blog-dialogue!

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