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what does God have to say to mothers?

June 27, 2008

When I began to study mothers, I was surprised, challenged and humbled by the things I read. The first thing that struck me was that, when the home is functioning properly, a mother should be happy  with her place in life.

He settles the barren woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Psalm 113:9

So many mothers are discontented, frustrated, and angry. What is it that has happened to rob mothers of the joy that is supposed to come so naturally? I mean, just turn on the news for five minutes and you’ll hear some story about a mother who has abused, neglected, or murdered her own children. So many first time moms are struck with depression because motherhood isn’t all they thought it would be. People regularly visit this blog after googling the phrase “I wish I never had kids.”

I’ll come back to that question of happiness in a minute. First, I want to look at another scripture:

No widow may be put on the list of widows unless she is over sixty, has been faithful to her husband, and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in trouble, and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.          1 Timothy 5:9-10

Did you catch that? Raising children is considered a good deed. Why would what is basically a function of nature be considered a good deed? Because bringing up children is more than having babies. Raising children requires sacrifice, hard work, and effort. It means that, for a time, your life does not belong to you. We are all familiar with the seemingly unattainable model of a wife and mother from Proverbs 31. I have scoffed at that chapter so many times, feeling that the woman described in those verses puts me to shame. Have you ever read through that description and thought that guy’s expectations of his wife are ridiculous? Take a look at verse 1:

The sayings of King Lemuel – an oracle his mother taught him…

That’s right. Proverbs 31 is the advice from a mother to her son about the kind of wife he should choose. I’m guessing that Lemuel’s mom lived a life pretty close to that ideal. I mean, we all want our sons to find a wife just like us, right? 🙂 So, why then, would she advocate that kind of life if it made her miserable?

The joy in motherhood comes from the sacrifice. It comes from knowing that every day you are working toward building a person that will one day enter the world and make it better. In this modern world, we have become so focused on ourselves, so preoccupied with finding happiness, that we miss out on the true happiness that comes from sacrificing your life for your child.

 For more about this study on the Biblical family, see part 1 and part 2. Parts 4 and 5 coming soon.

3 Comments leave one →
  1. June 30, 2008 3:14 pm

    Great post Kendra!

  2. July 1, 2008 12:01 am

    I just wanted to say AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!

    Very thought provoking!! Thanks for sharing!!


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